My passion: Ending suffering in my life.
Hi, I'm Pete.
This website is not a website designed to promote a better you.
It’s not about creating a better system.
There’s isn’t a version of you that you haven’t yet discovered.
What this website is about is recognizing the you you already are.
Falling in love with what is here, because like or not, here it is!
I never have to travel any further than my own thoughts. They show me everything I need in the moment to be free. I’ve heard it said: “Love your story, love your life.” - Byron Katie
This website includes all the pieces that help me to look to me for the answers to all of my Life’s questions. All the pieces that guide me to experience that Life is for me, not against me. All the ways I’ve come to choose Freedom over the need to be right.
Life looks much different from here. From this place of reality rather than my imagination of how I had pictured it should look when I arrived at the best version me.
I live in beautiful Monterey, California. For nearly my entire life I've been exploring how to connect with that greater inner wisdom from which all creativity, passion, trust, love and compassion flows. I've played banjo on New York City's Town Hall stage, I've started and ran a non-profit in Wyoming, I married the woman I love after meeting her on a plane bound for Italy, I've been without a home, traveling the country with my wife and two very young children, I've led people through creativity awakenings, I live with Type 1 (Juvenile) Diabetes, practiced The Work of Byron Katie and now I've turned my focus and experience into a tangible, personalized experience to share with others who are integrating these practices in to everyday living. Living a deeper conversation filled with peace, passion and purpose!
Here's a story, written with the help of Emily Barnes, narrating my journey with my wife, Anne. Traveling across 30 states, with our two children (3 yrs old and 8 months old), for nearly a year and a half, looking for the next place to call home...
We have all experienced that nagging little feeling that weʼre not enough or that we’ll reach our full potential when such and such happens. We have all chastised ourselves for not doing enough, for not being enough, for missing opportunities, for saying no.
Imagine doing something youʼve always wanted to do. Something that makes your pulse race just to think about it. Imagine it now, dare yourself to dream, fill in the blank, “Iʼve always wanted to ______?”. Scary isn’t it? Musicians Anne and Pete Sibley did just that, they said “yes” to their dreams. This is their story.
Back in 2011 our life was comfortable, to a point. We had a good home in Jackson, Wyoming, a healthy newborn, a happy, growing toddler and our loving family close by. We were part of a wonderful community who had unconditionally supported our music from day one. We were playing local gigs, teaching a little, enjoying a quiet, uncomplicated life as musicians. We were happy.
But there developed in us a desire to challenge ourselves and grow our music. It w a s a yearning, a spiritual longing to discover more about who we were meant to be, to be brave and explore our true potential. In acknowledging this, our life took on a deeper purpose.In this safe, comfortable life we had made for ourselves we had forgotten howto explore. We had forgotten how to challenge ourselves, how to seek new experiences, how to embrace life with open arms and open hearts. And without this we were without growth. Our music and our passion for playing needed to develop and it became clear to us that in order for that to happen we needed to spread our wings, to open our minds to new challenges, successes and failures and to ultimately give our lives to our passion our music.
It wasn’t an easy decision to pack up our lives, our children, our home, our roots and set off on a year long tour of North America. The critics, both real and in our minds, were a constant reminder of the uncertainty that would surely lie ahead. How would we live? Where would we stay? What about the children? It was undoubtedly difficult for loved ones to see us taking such a risk and there were many times that we had to push thoughts of anxiety to the back of our minds. Because what was the alternative? To exist in our comfortable lives for the rest of our years and never know what we could have achieved? When we considered that, our decision was simple. We would take a leap of faith and take our family and our music on tour.
Within a week of making the decision we began to notice something amazing. By saying “yes” to this adventure, opportunities that we could never have imagined started to offer themselves up to us. Simple things, like running into a lady outside the thrift store who donated us the three suitcases that would hold our worldly possessions for the next year and a half. It quickly became apparent that in saying “yes” to our adventure we were opening the doors to a host of opportunities. Opportunities to see the good in others, opportunities to see aspects of ourselves that we hadn’t seen before, opportunities to cry harder and laugh louder than we ever had before.
We planned our trip to a point we had a few gigs booked and so would work our way across the country according to those few responsibilities. Not bound by the structure and routine of daily life was unsettling, frightening even, but at the same time we were free to be driven by our most basic needs and desires.
We stayed with friends, or with friends of friends, or with cousins of excolleagues or acquaintances of long lost relatives. The kindness and generosity of others regularly caught us off guard. It appeared that, in making the decision to open up and share our music we were in turn allowing others to share with us. Along with a number of incredibly kind financial donations, we were gifted a stunning beach home for six weeks a dream location on the Californian coast that we could never have imagined having the opportunity to experience had we not taken this leap of faith. When times got tough, and they did, the world seemed to open up and support us. On the day our car gave in, it just so happened that our hosts Father owned the local car dealership and we drove away the next morning in a minivan that would become our home for the next few months. Kindness, support and belief in us was abundant. We had no idea.
And with each gig we played our confidence and self belief grew. The bigger gigs and festivals were great but there was nothing more heartwarming than playing a last minute house gig in the front lounge of our hosts home, looking our audience in the eye and seeing their joy reflected back at us. In those moments even the toughest of times were worth the perceived “risk” we had taken. In those moments, we were living our dream.
But conversely, life on the road was “raw”, we were more susceptible to the elements, we couldn’t run back to our comfortable home and to our kitchen or pet our dog or go to bed early. We had to face each highway, each host, each place we liked or didn’t like. Life on the road was so very real and we had to be brave and courageous and we had to keep asking people for help. Can we stay one more night? Can we use the plunger? Can you suggest a good playground? We had to keep interacting and connecting and challenging ourselves to move forwards. Always asking and receiving. We had to grow comfortable in allowing others to see our vulnerability. Is there anything more liberating? There were times that wehad to look failure in the face and say okay, youʼre here and we still need to go back in for more. Over the weeks and months we learned that there is no greater freedom than wholeheartedly accepting your weaknesses.
It wasespecially challenging with our young children in tow. But in hindsight we see that embarking on this journey with them provided another unexpected gift. There is no more direct route to finding peace than when you’re faced with adversity. When you’re stuck in heavy traffic in the pouring rain, when you’re tired and hungry and you’re looking at your children strapped into their car seats for the 6th hour that day. There is nothing more resolving than watching your sleeping child, at a time when you canʼt remember where you are because youʼve slept in a
hundred different beds over the past weeks and months then kissing their foreheads as you make them a promise that you willmake this work. Children are honest reflections of ourselves, whether we want to see it or not and they donʼt take days off from honesty. Experiencing our adventure with them taught us the greatest lessons in peace and acceptance, something we never expected when we set off from Jackson that warm, sunny August morning in 2011.
So what did we achieve? Was our leap of faith worth the risk? We left with the belief that if we shook up our life it would be tantamount to hitting the restart button something we felt was necessary. And for a while it was exactly like that. We were alive, it was exhilarating, exciting, new. But then challenge and uncertainty become the norm and excitement is replaced with a desire for stability, warmth, familiarity.
There is a book we both love by Jon KabatZinn called “Wherever You Go, There You Are”. We are reminded of this title whenever we think about our journey to this point. Yes we pressed the restart button, we threw caution to the wind and embarked upon the trip of a lifetime in search of something we felt was lacking in our lives. But in discovering the power of sharing our music we also discovered a version of ourselves that is more comfortable spending time in the present moment, that is more conscious of what ishappening now rather than what we believe should be happening. What came about was a wonderful blend of experiences, spiced with the highs and lows of life and steamed in the beauty of lifeʼs mysteries. By leaping into the unknown, by saying “yes” to our dreams we found a sense of peace that ultimately compliments our music today. All that remains is to ask, what would you do?..........